So What Exactly is Spirituality?
I met somebody recently who asked me what spirituality was. She went on to say that she wanted to be spiritual but she wasn’t exactly sure what that meant. She told me that she taught her kids to be open-minded, to give people the benefit of the doubt, to be loving people, etc. It sounded to me like she already was spiritual and just didn’t have a label for it. To some, the world spirituality brings up a picture of something mystical or complicated. I’m hoping I can show you just how simple it really is.
Trying to explain to somebody what spirituality is can be challenging simply because everybody has their own view of what that means. Spirituality, from my point of view, is not religion. While learning about my own style of spirituality, I learned a few things that most of us seem to have in common.
When I think of spirituality I think:
Treat others as you would like to be treated. Simple enough, right? I think everybody agrees that this is a reasonable way to live. If I am good to others, there is a good chance they will be good to me. It’s not 100% for sure, but it’s better than the alternative.
When you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed, count your blessings. Sometimes it’s hard to remember how lucky we really are but there is ALWAYS somebody worse off. If you take a moment to jot down 10 things that are good in your life you may be surprised to find a lot more than that. Some folks don’t have fresh air, clean water, food to eat, clothes to keep them warm, gas in their car, etc. Appreciation is key for getting more. In order to create abundance in your life, you must have appreciation for what you have rather than focusing on your lack.
Share, the more you share the more you get. So, not everybody believes this one. Many people believe you have to take care of yourself before you can help others and that’s a reasonable thought. Have you ever noticed when you are in victim mode and you have the opportunity to help another person your worries start to fade away, at least for the moment? Helping others is a great way to get out of your own head and on the road to feeling better. Don’t believe me, try it yourself.
Take care of yourself as if you were your best friend. Many people put themselves down all day, and they would NEVER treat a friend that way! Why would we treat others better than ourselves? If we aren’t good to ourselves, how can we expect others to be?
Take at least 30 minute to an hour every day to do something for yourself. You know people who are ‘so busy’ they just don’t have time for taking care of themselves. If you aren’t taking care of yourself you will burn out and you will not be able to ‘do it all’ for long. It may be as simple as a hot bath, exercise, meditate, watch a movie, read a book, have a cup of coffee with a friend, do an art project, write in your journal or do absolutely nothing. There is nothing wrong with sitting still and doing nothing contrary to what our society tells us. While this world is moving quickly and we have a lot to do, we will accomplish far more if we have balance and the way to get that is to nurture ourselves. Being somebody that accomplishes ‘the list’ is not the goal in life. Do your best, and whatever doesn’t get done, obviously didn’t need to get done. Be okay with that.